As we all know, personal growth occurs through our experiences, both positive and negative. During my journey of healing from trauma and life lessons, I yearned for understanding. Stephen Covey wisely stated, “In order to be understood, we must understand.”
Growing up, I was often misunderstood due to my shyness, which led to a stereotypical perception of lack of intelligence. However, as part of my healing process, I realized that my trauma carried a language that misled others about my true self. Each trauma recovery journey teaches us that our reactions to similar past experiences distort our self-perception.
I have endured various forms of trauma, including birth trauma, medical trauma, sexual trauma, childhood trauma, betrayal trauma, sanctuary trauma, narcissistic trauma,, psychological trauma and a 10x suicide loss survivor . Each of these experiences has triggered the four trauma responses (Flight, Fight, Freeze, Fawn) at different stages of my life.
Ultimately, I am a survivor.
Currently and continuously engaged in trauma recovery, I have acquired the ability to establish boundaries and barriers to effectively navigate my daily life. I have come to understand that not everyone will support your recovery and the manner in which you navigate life. I recognize the transformative power of therapy as an indispensable tool for healing and personal growth. I believe that we should be able to dispel the stigma associated with openly discussing mental health concerns.
As a spouse of a police officer who also grapples with mental and moral challenges, I have been a member of the 911 family for over 24 years. During this tenure, I have witnessed the difficulties faced by our family members and have observed that workplace stigma extends beyond frontline personnel and affects their families as well. This stigma ultimately influences our approach to problem-solving, perception, and management.
My purpose in life is to share experiences and journey from “what got us here” to “being okay or being beautifully broken” in our mental wellness journey. As a psychotherapist, my goal is not to diminish the pain but to provide guidance and support during challenging times.
Our journey together is centered around understanding the struggles you have faced so that you can be truly understood. I see you, I hear you, and I believe in your ability to overcome obstacles.