As we all know, personal & professional growth occurs through our experiences, both positive and negative. During my journey of healing and growth from trauma and lived experiences , I yearned for understanding. Stephen Covey wisely stated, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”
Growing up, I was often misunderstood due to my shyness (later known as people-pleasing responses), which led to a stereotypical perception of a lack of emotional intelligence and leadership. However, as part of my healing and growth process, I realized that my trauma carried a language that misled others about my true self. Each trauma recovery journey teaches us that our reactions to similar past experiences distort our self-perception.
In leadership, we’ll inevitably face discomfort. However, awareness empowers us to own our emotions and take responsibility for them. A common misconception is that leaders who feel are incapable of leading. In reality, vulnerability actually makes us better leaders. We can still lead effectively even when we’re vulnerable.
I have endured various forms of trauma, including birth trauma, medical trauma, sexual trauma, childhood trauma, betrayal trauma, sanctuary trauma, narcissistic trauma, psychological trauma, and a 10-times suicide loss survivor. Each of these lived experiences has heightened the four trauma responses (Flight, Fight, Freeze, Fawn) at different stages of my life.
Ultimately, I am not only a survivor, I’m also thriving. It is possible for both to co-exist.
Currently and continuously engaged in trauma recovery through growth, I have acquired the ability to establish boundaries and barriers to effectively navigate my daily life. I have come to understand that not everyone will support your recovery and the manner in which you navigate life. Candid and courageous conversations led me to the transformative power of therapy as an indispensable tool for healing and personal growth. I believe that we should be able to dispel the stigma associated with openly discussing mental health concerns. Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable.
As a spouse of a police officer who also grapples with mental and moral challenges, I have been a member of the 911 family for over 24 years. During this tenure, I have witnessed the difficulties faced by our family members and have observed that workplace stigma extends beyond frontline personnel and affects their families as well. This stigma ultimately influences our approach to problem-solving, perception and management.
My purpose is to share experiences and journey from “what got us here” to “being okay or being beautifully broken” in our mental wellness journey. As a psychotherapist, my goal is not to diminish the pain but to provide guidance and support during challenging times.
Our journey together is client-centred around understanding the struggles you have faced so that you can be truly understood. I see you, I hear you, and I believe in your ability to overcome obstacles.